Archive for the ‘Personalities’ Category

Something to Look Forward To

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Studies show that those who play are not only happier, but better producers at work. This is one of my success secrets.

I try to schedule at least one thing per month as a motivator to get me through the days I like the least. It might mean a two-day escape with my husband. Maybe it’s a writer’s conference, (I love to learn). Exploring a backyard haven a few miles down the road gives me an energy boost. Hiking through the woods feeds my soul. Going on a photography expedition inspires creative thinking. And this time of year, when exhaustion rolls over me like ocean waves, I sometimes give myself permission to take an entire day off from day job activities and writing, to watch old movies.

Different personalities are energized by different activities. Some gain strength in numbers of people, while a crowd depletes the soul of others. Meaningful work makes some people tick, while a day to do nothing is meaningful enough to other individuals.

Whatever renews your spirit, carve out a few minutes or hours to plan in advance. Having something to look forward to pushes us through tough days. Here’s to fun things to motivate us.

Check this list of 101 Fun Things to Do for ideas.

Anita FreshFaith @ Work

Anita Brooks

On Vacay with Hubby

Job 33:28 (NIV)

God has delivered me from going down to the pit, and I shall live to enjoy the light of life.

Anita Agers-Brooks is a Business Coach, Certified Personality Trainer, Productivity Specialist, Certified Team Training Facilitator, Marketing Specialist, national speaker, and author. She lives in Missouri with her husband Ricky.

She’s passionate about business with integrity, healthy relationships, and issues of identity. She travels the country teaching others from her personal experiences and research.

Contact her via website www.brooksanita.com or email anita.freshfaith@gmail.com

Mind Mapping

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Are you a visual learner? Do you ever struggle to make sense of your thoughts? Is it a challenge to communicate your concept in a focused way?

Then you might benefit from creating a Mind Map.

Mind mapping helps you recall memories, clarify thoughts, thread concepts into organized ideas, and connect abstract theories with concrete projects. It’s a way to create notes through a visual graph.

This method of creative brainstorming is traced back to the third century, and enables the user to explore their own potential in unique ways.

Applications are varied, with some of the more popular uses as follows:

  • problem solving
  • outline/framework design
  • structure/relationship representations
  • anonymous collaboration
  • marriage of words and visuals
  • individual expression of creativity
  • condensing material into a concise and memorable format
  • team building or synergy creating activity
  • enhancing work morale

Some personalities are put off by the messy organized structure of a mind map, but for some, the freedom of uninhibited expression allows for greater creativity. How neat or scattered it looks, depends solely on the mapper. Writers, managers, problem solvers, parents, spouses, doctors, artists, engineers, coaches, students, teachers, or anyone else stumped or stuck in a rut, can benefit from mapping out the hidden answers locked in their own minds.

What do you need to unlock and release from your brain?

Mind Map

Mind Mapping in Action

Romans 12:2 (NIV)

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is —his good, pleasing and perfect will.

Anita Agers-Brooks is a Business Coach, Certified Personality Trainer, Productivity Specialist, Certified Team Training Facilitator, Marketing Specialist, national speaker, and author. She lives in Missouri with her husband Ricky.

She’s passionate about business with integrity, healthy relationships, and issues of identity. She travels the country teaching others from her personal experiences and research.

Contact her via website www.brooksanita.com or email anita.freshfaith@gmail.com

Personality at Work

Telling me to relax is like telling me not to breathe. My driving personality is motivated by what I accomplish. Not only do I want to do a lot, but my Powerful Personality wants to do it the fast way. Especially at work.

I also believe if you can’t remember something it doesn’t do you any good. That’s why I appreciate Marita Littauer Noon’s simple labels for personality analysis. I’ve been able to teach others to recognize why they are who they are at work. It also enables me to help them interpret foreign personality languages. But more on that another time.

Wired That Way

The secondary side of my nature is the Popular Personality. No matter where I go, including the workplace, I have an innate need to do things the fun way.

Polar opposite to my fun-side is the Perfect Personality. This sensitive type thrives on doing things the right way at work. This is critical, so they can measure success or failure.

Diametrically different from my driving temperament is the Peaceful Personality. They require a work environment that offers short lists to enable them to do things the easy way. Employers would do well to remember this is more than a want — it’s essential to their ability to produce.

No matter what personality God has given us, we all have strengths and weaknesses. We often spend more waking hours at work than any other place. Knowing who we are, why we behave as we do, what drives us, where we will most likely flourish, and when we are at optimum performance helps us improve. We all have a place in our business or work, the key is finding how we fit.

What are your personality gifts? Are you working in a climate that allows you to use them?

Anita FreshFaith @ Work

1 Corinthians 12:6 (NIV)

There are different kinds of working, but in all of them and in everyone it is the same God at work.

Anita Agers-Brooks is a Business Expert, Certified Personality Trainer, Communications Specialist, national speaker, and writer. She lives in Missouri with her family.

Contact her via www.freshstartfreshfaith.org or anita.freshfaith@gmail.com

Rewards That Work

Yesterday, I promised the final formula for rewarding those at work or at home. Blending my experience as a Certified Personality Trainer, with intense study of The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, and mixing in the flavor of gender, I’ve come up with an almost fool-proof system that works. Here’s a brief synopsis of how to give something meaningful to your recipient, and assure appreciation for your efforts. You might even get a thank you.

Popular Sanguine/Physical Touch — For the Girls

So far, my research shows these girls do just want to have fun. They respond to appropriate physical touch — they’re the huggers in the bunch. Often, this is all it takes to make them sparkle. If you speak a Popular Sanguine’s Love Language of Physical Touch, a pat on the arm, a quick rub on their shoulder, or a big hug, you’ll secure their loyalty. Let them plan a party, and they’ll cheerlead for weeks.

Popular Sanguine/Physical Touch — For the Boys

Girls aren’t the only ones who want to have fun, boys of this driving personality are motivated by something exciting to look forward to as well. For them, it might mean going to a ball game with his crew. A slap on the back while you compliment his good work go will energize him for weeks.

Powerful Choleric/Words of Affirmation — For Women

A Powerful personality needs to know you appreciate their ethics and hard work. They respond well to a note of gratitude, crediting them for their part in positive outcomes. Show your confidence in their abilities by giving them a leadership role in a project, and watch them shine.

Powerful Choleric/Words of Affirmation — For Men

Like their female counterparts, men of power also like words of affirmation, but don’t necessarily need it written down. Give them a problem and ask them how they would solve it. This challenge is its own reward for a man driven by the need to succeed.

Perfect Melancholy/Quality Time — Ladies’ Choice

Opposite of the Popular personality, the Perfect Melancholy takes life seriously. They prefer privacy, shy away from physical touch, but appreciate time spent, as long as it’s quality. Attracted to the finer things in life, take them to a meal at a nice restaurant, give them tickets to a concert of their choice, or send them on a relaxed retreat where they can enjoy nature.

Perfect Melancholy/Quality Time — Man’s Choice

Melancholy men also prefer a quiet respite for rewards. Find out if they enjoy fishing, hunting, bird-watching, or some other outdoor activity where they can soak up the sounds of the great outdoors. Depending on his preferences, this man might enjoy an evening of classical music. An orderly place to rest will rejuvenate them for the next task ahead.

Peaceful Phlegmatic/Acts of Service — For Her

The peaceful woman enjoys giving to others, but often, others fail to notice this generous soul does most of the giving. Return the favor. Give her permission to sit a spell, and wait on her foot and hand. She also tends to be the listener in most conversations, so surprise her with an offer to listen while she talks, and then keep your mouth closed. You’ll receive her graceful appreciation.

Peaceful Phlegmatic/Acts of Service — For Him

Take him to lunch, just the two of you, and ask for his perspective on some of the problems you face. This watcher of the world may surprise you with his insights. Tapping into his wisdom will endear him to you forever. Show your deep respect for his value as a human being, and watch him unfold like a sprout shooting through a warm, spring soil. Offer to work side-by-side with him on a task, and the sprout will grow into a strong stalk.

Every personality needs a personalized reward. It isn’t rocket science, but it does require a bit of thoughtful effort on your part. However, you will receive as much, or more, than you give. But the harvest you reap will prove the effort was worth your time.

Do you take the time to give individualized rewards? Do you think they’re beneficial?

Anita FreshFaith @ Work

Jeremiah 17:10 (NIV)

“I the LORD search the heart and examine the mind, to reward each person according to their conduct, according to what their deeds deserve.”

Anita Agers-Brooks is a Business Coach, Certified Personality Trainer, Communications Specialist, speaker, and writer. She lives in Missouri with her family.

Contact her via www.freshstartfreshfaith.org or anita.freshfaith@gmail.com

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Undercut Temptation

Waves of swirling temptation crashed over Sandy’s mind as she tried to stand against a desire to pretend she’d forgotten to include a video in the training segments her company used. But it wasn’t just any video, it would display her error for all to see. Her boss thought everyone would appreciate the learning tool, but Sandy didn’t want them to learn from her.

After a restless night she couldn’t hide the bluish bags under her eyes or the grouchy snap when asked a question. Midway through the morning, Sandy finally made her decision…she’d schedule the video into all training sessions with new hires and for the quarterly manager’s meeting. The mistake was hers — and so were the consequences. Embarrassment was a small price so she could maintain integrity.

The letter U in Teshuvah represents the act of undercutting temptation. In the Jewish philosophy, you must say no to lesser sins to avoid crossing deeper and deeper boundary lines.

Often, we justify a small step over thin lines, and when no lightening strike occurs, nor do we experience any other large crash, we go further. A layering effect allows us to ultimately do things we never believed possible. Justification and getting away with lesser hurts swirl into muddy choices destined to bring pain for us and others.

After all, sin is just that, something that hurts us, hurts other people, and finally hurts God.

Tomorrow, Sandy will show us how to validate our godly sorrow for the pain we cause. The waters begin to clear when we show what we tell.

What’s the most embarrassing mistake you’ve had publicized? In hindsight, can you find anything to be grateful for?

Mark 14:38 (NIV)
Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.”

Anita Agers-Brooks is a Business Expert, Certified Personality Trainer, Communications Specialist, speaker, and writer. She lives in Missouri.

Contact her via http://www.freshstartfreshfaith.org or anita.freshfaith@gmail.com

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Humble Yourself When You Mess Up

You shouldn’t have to deal with my mistakes, so I’m willing to pay the penalties and extra interest.” Sandy fidgeted with her fingers and looked down, “But could you take it out in payments?”

After several moments reflection, Sandy’s boss stood up. “Sure, but I have another idea too.”

She didn’t like the tone in his voice. Danger bumps erupted all over her arms. Sandy was afraid to ask what he had in mind, but she was also afraid of his response if she didn’t clarify. “Yes, sir?”

“This will make a great training tool.” His face took on the far off look of reflection while he thought out loud. “We’ll film a video on the importance of follow-through, tickler systems, and accountability. New hires will watch it as part of orientation, and we can create a beefed up version to use at our quarterly management meetings. Everyone in the company will be required to view it. Sounds like a great idea.”

Sandy cringed, mortified at the image of all her co-workers seeing her mistake as an example of what not to do. She’d always prided herself on quality. Now she’d be the punch line of all their jokes. As she stood there, her imagination conjured play-by-plays of the office cliques reacting to the video in crazy ways, all of them humiliating.

“I’ll get the marketing team right on it.” Sandy’s boss either didn’t recognize her discomfort or didn’t care.

Sandy’s thoughts and emotions wrestled inside her mind and chest. She considered telling him she quit. No job was worth this kind of treatment.

“Someone from marketing will be in touch, and I’ll have payroll draw up the agreement to start weekly deductions for your repayment.” The brightness faded from his face at the last part of the statement. “I think we’re done here, right?”

Sandy nodded and mumbled a lifeless thank you, then turned and walked out the door.

She went to the ladies room and hid inside a stall to think. Hands spread across her face, she had a mental argument with herself. I know I messed up, but I don’t deserve this. I’m not a child who needs punishment. This is taking things too far.

But, you did make the mistake, and it’s a big one.

Everyone makes mistakes.

True, but you own this one.

And then a new struck thought. Part of Sandy’s job was scheduling the training segments once they were created. She could simply forget to include the video, for new hires and the quarterly meetings. Her boss was so busy he’d never remember. He regularly forgot much smaller things. Besides, if he questioned it, she could always claim there wasn’t room this time, and it was on the next docket.

She’d sucked it up and humbled herself, but she might still save face. A plan began to formulate.

Humble yourself with those you hurt. Act in a new way – opposite of the sin. This is the fourth step in Teshuvah.

Sandy wants to demonstrate humility, but she believes confessing and offering to pay for the financial cost of her mistake is enough. Now her boss wants to require more than what she believes is fair. Conflicting emotions can cause gnarly results. The temptation to retaliate may prove too strong. Sandy’s twisted like a tree after a hurricane.

What would you do? Accept your boss’s decision and go along? Snag temptation’s snarled limbs? How should we react when the consequences of our mistakes go beyond what we deem fair?

Matthew 23:12 (NIV)
For those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.

Anita Agers-Brooks is a Business Expert, Certified Personality Trainer, Communications Specialist, speaker, and writer. She lives in Missouri.

Contact her via http://www.freshstartfreshfaith.org or anita.freshfaith@gmail.com

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Teshuvah in Review

I thought we’d end the week in review. To this point Sandy discovered a big mistake that could cost the company a large amount in fines and penalties. She believes if she says nothing no one will know.

We left her, knees knocking, throat swollen, and teeth chattering, while she waits for her boss’s response to her confession. At this point, she’s exercised the first three steps of Teshuvah:

1) T is for taking responsibility when you’ve hurt, offended, or cost another something. Fess up when you mess up.
2) E is end the hurt you caused. Immediately and actively. Walk after you talk.
3) S means sympathize with those on the receiving end of your actions. What are the future ripples you might have unwittingly created?

In today’s society of pretense, it’s refreshing as an employer not to battle an employee to get to a place of honesty. Without a foundation of truth to stand on, our businesses are in jeopardy of slipping into the quicksand of consequence when we try to look out for number one.

Next week we’ll take things to a higher level of true freedom. Peace is possible at work and at home, but it’s up to us to build a strong foundation through Teshuvah. Otherwise, collapse will soon follow.

Anita FreshFaith @ Work

Anita Agers-Brooks is a Business Expert, Certified Personality Trainer, Communications Specialist, speaker, and writer. She lives in Missouri.

Contact her via http://www.freshstartfreshfaith.org or anita.freshfaith@gmail.com

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Matthew 7:26 (NIV)
But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand.