I Don’t Know What I Don’t Know

Most of us meet with people in some kind of setting. Whether it’s a big corporate event, an educational seminar, a doctor’s appointment, talking with the waiter at a restaurant, or negotiating with family. Dealing with people is an everyday occurrence.

But sometimes, we assume we know what someone else thinks, knows, or is going to say before we pay attention to the words that leave their mouths. We start answering before they’re done talking.

This is the single most predetermining factor of whether a meeting will benefit those involved, or end in mad chaos.

Here a life-changing message. Are you ready?

Don’t interrupt!

God gave us one mouth and two ears for a reason. We should listen twice as much as we speak, and yet, we run over others with our words in efforts to make them hear us. 

I’m a talker by nature, but years ago, I learned this powerful secret. Clamp your lips and unplug your ears. The things I’ve learned since then are amazing. I never knew my circle of acquaintances were so smart.

I’ll probably wage The Battle of the Big-Mouth the rest of my life, but I’m one hundred percent better than I was ten years ago.

Now, I sometimes get frustrated when the person I’m talking to carries on a monologue that only allows me the occasional head nod to prove I’m still awake. But, if I want to learn and grow, I need to lean in, listen, and hear with my whole heart and mind what the speaker is saying.

By not interrupting, I find there’s a lot I don’t know I don’t know.

Anita FreshFaith @ Work

Mark 4:20 (NIV)

Others, like seed sown on good soil, hear the word, accept it, and produce a crop—some thirty, some sixty, some a hundred times what was sown.”

Anita Agers-Brooks is a Business Coach, Certified Personality Trainer, Communications Specialist, speaker, and writer. She lives in Missouri with her family.

Contact her via www.freshstartfreshfaith.org or anita.freshfaith@gmail.com

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2 responses to this post.

  1. Only when we really listen to others can we identify their needs and know how to respond. A friend once told me about a conflict between her young daughter and her “know-it-all” mother, who had a bad habit of giving unsolicited advice to everyone, without really listening first. Once, in frustration my friend’s young daughter responded to her grandmother. “You think you know everything, but you don’t!”

    Sometimes our failure to listen before responding can provoke a negative, emotional response from our loved ones, who we may desperately want to help.

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  2. Important topic. It all starts with listening. When we open our ears to God, He tells us to listen more. He then takes us deeper and deeper… as we listen and listen some more.

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